Years ago a friend of mine announced merrily that she and her husband were going on vacation in Hawaii.
Before a pure thought entered my brain, the words “Must be nice” fell out of my mouth. All I could think was how I had always dreamt of going to Hawaii. Why them? Why not me?
She looked at me for a minute and said, “Actually it is nice, and I wish people could be happy for me.”
I’ve always remembered that day. A lesson to treasure.
Every time we communicate, we have a chance to grow or harm a relationship. Think about who you call or text to share your wonderful news. Who comments on your Facebook post when your child wins an award or on LinkedIn when you get promoted? Are they a lover or a hater of your good fortune?
Last weekend, I mentioned to a friend that I was so grateful for having an amazing couple clean my home and how strange it was that some of our friends felt the need to judge that. His reply was, “I can’t even afford that.”
My ego wanted to snap, “Everyone has choices. You go places I don’t.” Then I remembered my friend’s news to me about Hawaii. Oops, I’ve done it too! And this friend has such a big heart. I’m sure he did it unconsciously.
Listen closely to the people around the water cooler, at family events, and at often dreaded school reunions. Have you heard… I don’t even make that much, and I’m an insert-occupation… We could have had one of those too, but we thought it wasn’t worth the money… Well, my son won MVP twice last season… His father probably got her the job… So what are you selling to afford that new car/trip/computer?… and other comments that show how easy it is to compare ourselves to other people when we could be listening and celebrating with them.
Challenge yourself to be present and to be happy for other people. Being positive is a choice and a habit. Being genuinely pleased for other people blesses what abundance they have ~ romance, money, homes, boats, business achievements ~ and brings it closer to you.
In fact, fake it if you must until it flows naturally, We’re all works in progress.
Practice often because very soon, I’ll be telling you, “Guess what? I booked this fabulous vacation to Maui. It is going to be awesome!”