I was venting, getting it all out with someone I trusted. I was looking for her advice because I was confused about how to handle an unexpected situation. There was a significant sum at stake. I wasn’t sure whether to bob or weave. I was feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and stupid. And I said so.
“Don’t talk about my friend Catherine like that,” she interrupted me.
I laughed and kept talking.
“No, seriously,” she interrupted again. “Don’t talk about my friend Catherine like that. I wouldn’t listen to anyone else say that about you so why would I listen to you do it?”
She was right, and I had no idea I was being so mean to myself until she pointed it out.
What are you saying about yourself?
If you are feeling low or weak when faced with a situation, listen to yourself. Write it down. All the crappy, low-down feelings you have about yourself. Now flip it. Picture yourself being someone confident, positive, and smart. Cross out the old negative thoughts. Write about that person until you have a strong mental picture in your head and a powerful connection in your heart. What would that person say or do?
Be that person by talking to and about yourself that way. Do what a real friend would do for you.