It’s true. You do.

You’re late. Or you’re too early. You talk too much. You didn’t say anything.

You don’t support me. You’re too helpful. Don’t give me that look. I can’t believe you just said that. I would never do anything like that.

Really? What were you thinking?

It is so easy to take offense. In fact, the more tired and stressed I am, the more annoying you are. You even sound extra stupid, and the crankier you make me.

If I am aching to be right and be annoyed like that, I know I actually am off centre, afraid, overtired, or maybe all three. It is all about the practice of taking that extra breath to pause.

Ranting and raving only offers short-term relief, and often we regret our words or actions in the midst of it. (I know, I know, it does feel so good at first.) But it brings us down because we’re focusing on the problem instead of the solution.

When you do something I could call annoying, I need to accept it. That it is what happened. We can’t go back. I can either speak up, change what I can (i.e. me), or walk away.

What are you going to do the next time someone annoys you?


  1. Liz on January 20, 2013 at 3:38 am

    LOL This is why my theme word for the year is PEACE. Not world peace, but inner peace. And I suspect that we’d be closer to world peace if there was more commitment to inner peace!

  2. Nancy Kay on January 20, 2013 at 3:49 am

    I make an effort to take a break and change my environment when I’m getting tense and annoyed. Even just leaving the room for a few minutes can make a big difference~

  3. Arleen Bradley on January 20, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Recently my boss made a comment that really annoyed me. She thought I was made, I wasn’t made so much as annoyed that she made the statement without knowing the facts.

    For me anger and annoyed are two different things.

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