It’s true. You do.
You’re late. Or you’re too early. You talk too much. You didn’t say anything.
You don’t support me. You’re too helpful. Don’t give me that look. I can’t believe you just said that. I would never do anything like that.
Really? What were you thinking?
It is so easy to take offense. In fact, the more tired and stressed I am, the more annoying you are. You even sound extra stupid, and the crankier you make me.
If I am aching to be right and be annoyed like that, I know I actually am off centre, afraid, overtired, or maybe all three. It is all about the practice of taking that extra breath to pause.
Ranting and raving only offers short-term relief, and often we regret our words or actions in the midst of it. (I know, I know, it does feel so good at first.) But it brings us down because we’re focusing on the problem instead of the solution.
When you do something I could call annoying, I need to accept it. That it is what happened. We can’t go back. I can either speak up, change what I can (i.e. me), or walk away.
What are you going to do the next time someone annoys you?